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Through the Eyes of a Child


By Janeal Mulaney



In the midst of a summer sunny day I sat and watch all the little children outside at play. Some with fair hair, some with dark, swinging on the large swing sets, down at the park. How sweet and innocence they all appear. Within his or her heart there is no fear, hate, or prejudice of any kind. They’re just happy to be playing with others or alone. They laugh and they smile, while enjoying their play. Some slide down the slide or go around and around, some pair up to go up and down. Blessed are the children for they know not better, but to love everyone as well as each other.

Every adult needs to look through the eyes of a child. For we forget to see the beauty of each precious day, that the lord has granted us. Their caring, thoughtful, and loving ways help to show us how we need to live each passing day.

A child’s pride does not keep them from asking, for the help they may need, or the love that they grave. Grudges they hold not for more then a day, to them it is wasteful to spend their life in that way. Right now they know not, whether they are rich or poor, neither do they care if a wolf is at the door. For they are children they’d just invite him in, feed him leftovers and let him stay within. Life is fascinating, and something to cherish, while young and carefree children wallow away the day, with dreams and play. They do not worry what tomorrow may bring, for today is all that matters, and yesterday a past dream. Their hopes, wishes, and wants aren’t very many for most of them receive their happiest moments, through the games that they cherish.

Now as they grow they learn by example serious, and business like, they no longer smile. Their job will come first, maybe their family second, but now they hurry all through the day. There is no more time for play, too many worries, too many bills that must be paid, that’s what it takes to keep the wolf away. Somewhere in time the dreams were long forgotten, the carefree days of their childhood gone. Some now know they are poor, while others are rich. Now fear, hate, and prejudice dwell within their hearts, while leading them on their way. For now the all mighty dollar has replaced their cherished days. The more they make, the more they want, and independence is highly valued, by everyone. There is no more us, nor are there we. The thought they now have is what’s good for me.

Most adults are too busy or maybe we’ve just lost our way, to remember the peaceful and happy times we’ve all had at play. Too often we forget that there is life after work, no time to appreciate our family and friends. Our spirit is broken; we’ve forgotten what love truly is. For yesterday was not enough, today is too short and tomorrow will bring only despair.

Every adult needs to listen to what their children say, for one day they will be just like you. Are you sure that is what you want for your child to do? Or do you wish for them to look at the world through the eyes of a Child?
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In The Rain

In the Rain
By Janeal Mulaney

I love to take a walk through the rain

The fresh air, the gentle drips that splash in puddles at my feet

The gray clouds with an electric currant running through them opening for more to fall

The sound of rolling thunder, as though God is speaking to those who want hear

As I wander in the rain

Just a tad of suspense and fear of the unknown

Icy fingers reaching out to lick my skin through the clothing I wear

Flashing light beyond the trees, as I count until the crack of thunder comes

The energy I absorb from the air that swirls the drops of rain all around me

As I wander through the rain

I see the flowers reaching out to drink

The grass turns greener with every step I take

The leaves flutter with the breeze that brings the drops onto my head

I breathe in to absorb the wet cool breeze as I search the sky

As I wander through the rain

Teens and Positive Rebellion

Teens and Positive Rebellion

Teens and Positive Rebellion
By Janeal Mulaney

Rebellion is a very important step to becoming an adult, not only will teen’s benefit from the experience so will their parents, and their younger siblings. There are many stages of rebellion, which accrue at different ages, during the adolescent years. During adolescence, bodies begin to mature and so does the mind. Teens will start to question, the morals, values and standards that their parents taught them. This is one of the first steps to becoming an adult. They feel that they have a right to be included in the process of the decision-making that will personally affect them. Their own insights and understanding will help decide what solution is right for them. This does not necessarily mean they will make the same decision that their parents or friends would. During this time, their siblings gain insight for their own personal future rebellion, as well as gaining more freedom from the older sister/brother’s rebellion.
As younger siblings witness their parents and older brother or sister’s conflicts, they learn from the sidelines, different ways to get through to their parents, when their own values and morals start changing. The younger child will learn that discussing a particular want or like with their parents might add more leniencies. On the other hand they may feel it is better to do what they want then face the punishment later. They may also learn where the definite line is drawn; in other words, what they cannot do until they are out of the house or after they have turned eighteen. After learning from the sparks that are ignited over fashions and other fads from their older siblings, the younger child may decide what fashions are really worth doing battle over. The younger siblings now have a better understanding and a more lenient set of parents to work with. Some issues, parents will not tolerate, even with all the discussion in the world.
Although parents do realize that rebellion goes with being a teenager, they are still responsible for guiding the teenager through the troubled fazes of this difficult time. Many teens can head straight for misfortune during this period. For this reason, it is most important that even though parents are afraid of losing their baby, they also remain calm and collected while figuring out how to handle each child with the best care possible. Friendships and other circumstances that teens are facing require parental control. Some parents have realized that stating no or absolutely not will in no way be the best answer; for some teens, these rebuttals may drive them even farther away from the people that indeed love them the most. They soon find that either saying no and here is the reason I feel this way, or manipulation of the teen in subtle ways works better to bring that teen around to the parent’s way of thinking. By giving the teen reasons, or stating the way the parents feel and why, the mother and father are helping the teen to realize that he or she believe that they are capable of dealing with that particular choice. Having teens see both sides of the situation, parents are able to help them make a clear coherent judgment on their own behalf.
With most teens, rebellion is their way of telling their loved ones that they are indeed growing up and are ready to take on more responsibility, including the teens own decisions. Through this period of time the teens are simply learning that they are able to rely on their own judgement. Even with some issues, the teen will indeed want mom and dad to be around if a mistake is made he/she still feels it is time for them to pursue their own verdict. If the teen knows that the parents will give them sound advice on subjects and explain why Mom or Dad have chosen that route; the teens are more apt to listen to their parent’s advice. Although the teenager may consult their friends or other people that they tend to admire. Many teens have rethought those decisions after a concerned adult or a loving parent has stated both aspects of their selection. Growing into an adult is a very important process.
Rebellion can be a very positive experience for the teenagers and their families, with showing the teen respect, caring, and trust though out their childhood years. Parents have established a good foundation for the adolescent years to come. One of the most essential elements is realizing that the child is flexing their wings for the first time, and the teen needs their parent’s encouragement to learn how to fly. With the parent’s belief and trust they will find that not only can the teen stand on their own. The parents will acknowledge that the teen’s judgement and intuition will be able to prepare them to become the competent, responsible, and productive adult. Improving the relationship or friendship as your teen grows will bring out the self-esteem that is essential to the teen’s development. As children grow all parents need to base their relationship on the idea of what form of kinship they want with their child in later years through communication and love this is a very easy process. Families can conquer the biggest problems with the greatest of ease, using respect, trust, communication, love, and guidance. Therefore teen rebellion can be a positive experience, for the family along with the teens.